Did I just hear you complain about…
Last night Pete & I watched ”New Girl” definitely not a PG! family type of show, nevertheless it was funny and I did Laugh out Loud!
So there’s one male character who’s a wannabe and he tries to hook up with every girl who breathes! What I liked was how they bash him for his crude behavior and more so, how his guy roommates keep him accountable for it with what they’ve dubbed a “Douche B..” Jar. Every time he makes a “DB” comment or displays “DB” behavior, he has to pay up and contribute to the Jar! For example, the “New Girl” was crying her eyes out over a breakup and he proceeds to take his shirt off to show off his pecks, I would imagine to take her mind off things…lol
So, I got to thinking… hmmm, this could really work well in my house for all the whiners and complainers! So I decide to surprised the first one I came in contact with last night who had the audacity to complain, so I figured this would be the perfect time to implement a new rule in our house!
So here it is ~ If you express any form of ungratefulness, especially in the form of a blatant complaint about anything, for example a “slow computer connection” you are now going to be fined and have to add money (or IOU that will be collected on!! lol) to OUR Jar, which is simply named the “Ungrateful Jar”! I already collected $5.00 last night for the “slow connection” complaint and I can’t wait to see what turns up later on when we get into full swing action around here… homework, making dinner, cleanup, etc!
Which leads me to my Twitter post of earlier today ”@facebook, I don’t understand what all the complaints are about #newfacebook, its #change, its #growth, its endless possibilities! I’m #grateful!”
FACEBOOK, I am grateful for your amazing talent, your insight, your technical skills and your vision! I am grateful for the free advertising, the ability to “see” my friends and family every day whether near or far and for all the wonderful friends I have made since that monumental day when you rolled out a tool that would change society and how we communicate forever.
I am grateful for the day in 2004 when Mark Zuckerberg a 19-year-old sophomore at Harvard started a Web service from his dorm. A young man who wasn’t afraid to be bold, think big and manifest his then vision to what we now know as Facebook! I am grateful for your tenacity and the product I use today to promote my business, connect with friends, be inspired, share a laugh, share information, raise awareness and gain new knowledge every day!
Your boldness has changed society forever!!
Thank you Facebook, no complaints here…
Extremely grateful,
~ eℓℓe ƸӜƷ
“be great, but more importantly, be grateful.”
I recently read a blog post on leadership and some quotes that reminded me about the infinite power we all have to be the best we can be! One of my favorite quotes is:
“We are responsible for what we are, and whatever we wish ourselves to be, we have the power to make ourselves. If what we are now has been the result of our own past actions, it certainly follows that whatever we wish to be in future can be produced by our present actions; so we have to know how to act.”
As I was discussing this past weeks progress with a client, I was again reminded of how we have the power to choose and create the changes that we desire. With just one shift, we can immediately begin to create our own “success”. Something I said to her last week made all the difference in her focus since then. In response to her perceived obstacle, I said, “be great, but more importantly, be grateful.” The abiltiy to hear that and put that into motion made all the difference in her interactions and thoughts thereafter.
When we focus on the gifts that we can potentially gain as we move along in our journey, we become enlightened and empowered. Our experiences that once were perceived to be ”obstacles” or “challenges” no longer immobilize us or cause us to be fearful. When we choose to focus on any experience as a gift, we empower ourselves to take what we can from it to grow us, our vision and our infinite power to succeed in all things.
When we look for the gifts while navigating through our journey, our thinking, feelings and perspective naturally shift about “it” to a place of abundance and gratitude!
Enjoy each baby step. Each one is a stepping stone to your future success!
Have an empowered day!
Eluise
www.ChangeWishingIntoDoing.com
Integrity is…
I was honored to be invited to be one of the Coaches who took part in the “Above Board” Chamber of Florida‘s panel discussion “How to be a Better You in Business” ~
One of the questions asked was in relation to how the word “integrity” is being used so loosely and has become a “buzz word.” My response ended with, “when your actions and behaviors are consistent, ultimately those “acts” will tell the story, for better or for worse”
Integrity is something you are, it is not something you consider. You either have it or you don’t!
Leadership is a mindset, it’s not a position.
Leadership is a state of being, it’s not an “act”
You can’t “act” like a leader. If your actions are not consistently in alignment with that of a true leader or who you profess to be, the breakdown will occur and it will be obvious to those around you.
Everything rises and falls on leadership. Credibility is the foundation of leadership, so if you say one thing and “act” another, no one will believe in you or your vision.
In truth, the word integrity is only a word when used as a “buzz word”. Anyone who uses the word loosely in conversation is most likely trying to convince others of their own perceived integrity.
Those with integrity, don’t have the need to talk about it or declare themselves as a person of integrity; they silently live it in their daily words, actions, behaviors and interactions.
True leaders know themselves and they consistently grow themselves, we are all a work in progress! Most important, true leaders consistently serve to grow others.
Last and certainly not least, without integrity there is no leadership.
Therefore my friends, integrity is by far, not a “buzz word”, it is something you are or can strive to be at all times.
“One of the primary rules of navigation is this: What’s under the surface should carry more weight than what’s above the surface if the ship is going to make it through storms without capsizing. That’s exactly how it is with integrity. What’s under the surface had better be greater than what you’re showing to the world, or you’re never going to make it through the storms of life.” ~Pat Williams
What kind of “gas” are you fueling your tank with?
In August of 2007 I wrote a blog post that I was reminded of when I heard my Pastor’s sermon yesterday entitled ”Is Your Tank Full” His message was one of enlightenment. He perfectly makes things real. He made us all realize that we have a choice to keep ” our tanks” filled and more importantly, we get to choose what we fill our tanks with. Thank you Pastor Jay for that reminder!
Upon further reflection of my old post, I realized how much I have grown spiritually and how the same post would be somewhat different today. When I wrote the original post in 2007, I was full. I was grateful, I was aware and I was serene. I was content and extremely satisfied with my life. Today, I see my life the same way. Yet, I realize it is so much better because I know mind, body and soul, it is all possible because of the faith upon which it is grounded.
My beliefs afford me the clarity to “choose wisely” and the ability to carry on with a full tank through all of life’s up and downs. I am free of the days when there was nothing to hold on to if things didn’t go according to plan. I am free from lack of focus and direction in my decisions because they are now deep rooted in my faith and are at my fingertips without effort. I exercise freedom of choice and that ability affords me freedom to choose how I fill my tank. Through all the wonders, adversity, joy or pain, I know that I can face the day with love and hope and know that tomorrow will be a better day.
The key to maintaining that fullness goes right back to what I’m fueling my tank with and the levels at which I keep them. Every day we get to choose what ingredients we use and the amounts we use to keep our “tanks” full.
What are you fueling your tank with?
Is it your faith, is it love, hope, your passions, your purpose, or a combination of them all?
The fuel we feed ourselves daily generates what we manifest in our every day, our lives and our relationships. Every once in a while, stop, breathe and ask yourself, what am I fueling myself with?
The special kind of fuel that brings me peace and the ability to be open and receptive to the messages around me is made up of:
G – Gratitude
A – Awareness
S - Serenity
What kind of “gas” are you fueling your tank with?
What is The Power of Coaching?
THE POWER OF COACHING
Imagine yourself stuck in a house of darkness with no light switch. This house is fully furnished with everything you need in life but you can’t see any of it. You know there are rooms with windows and doors and these rooms have all your furniture, clothes and personal belongings but in the darkness you can’t seem to find just what you need when you need it. Since you are familiar with the layout, every day you get up take a shower, get dressed and look in the mirror that you know is on the wall but because of the darkness you cannot really see yourself clearly. In fact the only thing you can see in the mirror is a blurry shadow of your silhouette but you can’t really see the details of who you are. You go down to the kitchen make your breakfast and sit down at your table to eat, but you can’t really see what you’re eating. This darkness follows you day after day everywhere you go. At times you feel frustrated because you know something is missing in your life but you just can’t pin point what it is. You have the desire to look in the mirror and really see yourself but the darkness is all you have ever known and that thought seems almost absurd.
Does this story sound crazy to you? The truth is that many people live their entire lives in total darkness, not literal darkness because every day the sun comes out and we all have light switches in our homes. But most people, and maybe even you, are unable to see who they truly are or what they are capable of being or what issues are bothering them or what burdens they have been carrying. In fact most people aren’t able to understand or articulate what the darkness is or how it is limiting their life, some people aren’t even aware the darkness exists. And because this darkness is all they have known they don’t realize that they are in the dark about some very important things in life. They just don’t know any better. At times they feel something is missing but they just can’t seem to pin point what it is exactly. They don’t fully understand 
what causes their inability to see, they are unable to see who they really are or reach their full potential or find total happiness in life. Unfortunately many people go through life like this, bumping into everything, struggling everyday and never really finding out how strong or great they are capable of being. Their own darkness spills over into relationships and clouds their judgment, blocks their communication and weighs them down with unnecessary pain and suffering. Because they can’t see or understand where they are in life or what to do next they live in stress, fear, pain and sadly a lot of negativity. The unfortunate result of all of this negativity in our lives year after year is often times dis-ease, simply because the body stores it without any outlet or release.
Now what if we had someone that could slowly turn on the lights with a dim switch? Nothing blindingly bright or drastic of course, just a subtle light that slowly got brighter and with each passing day we were able to fully see who we are and what our purpose in life is. What if someone came into your life and not only slowly lit up the room but they also held up a mirror for you and helped you see, understand, process and articulate all of your valuable assets and attributes as well as gently helped you realize your shortcomings and faults. I suppose that from years in the dark the thought would seem scary. It might be a little difficult at first to open up to someone else and allow them to see all of you. Taking off that mask we’re so used to wearing and exposing our true authentic self is difficult at first but very liberating as well. Taking a good look at ourselves in the mirror and fully seeing who we are in all of our good and bad is challenging for most to say the least. Yet, the very powerful process that leads us to discovering who we really are and what we are capable of becoming is immeasurable and life changing.
Imagine being able to pick up the phone and set up a time to meet with this person on a regular basis and work this whole light thing at your own pace? What if you got to determine how fast or how slow the lights were brightened and what parts of yourself or your life were to be shined on next? Does this sound like something you would be interested in? This, my friend is what “The Power of Coaching” is all about!
Coaching is a process in which you engage with a certified, experienced and professional individual like Eluise Gambino within your scope of time and pace. Together you work through the various stages of your fears, stress, pain, suffering, unhappiness or whatever is holding you back from reaching your goals and finding true happiness. What if you don’t know what your goals, blocks, fears or limiting beliefs are? Ah, good question! That is where a Professional Coach takes your hand and walks you through the coaching process, helping you to find yourself, gently opening the curtains and turning on the lights so you can see your inner greatness, your skills and abilities, what makes you tick and tingle, what makes you feel like flying and most of all, what really brings joy to your life. The most difficult part of Coaching very well might be that first step because you’re not sure what to expect. I assure you that one call will put your mind at ease once you’ve had the opportunity to talk about how the process can go and as gently or as deep as you want it to go. You always remain in control; every step of the process is customized to your needs and geared around what makes you comfortable. Now that doesn’t mean that everything will be candy coated and you get to hear only what you want to hear because that wouldn’t be beneficial to you at all. With Eluise as your Coach, you will get straight forward, honest and no-nonsense responses that are real, thought provoking and eye opening so that finding your way out of the darkness and into the light becomes a natural every day process that you choose to commit to.
In today’s day and age, everyone can benefit from Professional Coaching. Coaching helps you see who you are and where you are as well as help you determine where you are going in life and how to navigate the blocks and obstacles. Coaching helps you define and understand your goals as well as creating a clear and functional map to reaching those goals. Together with your Coach you can make a plan to get on the Path to Success and be held accountable as long as you need to in order to reach the level of success you desire. Coaching can help you build your self esteem, overcome your fears and help you learn to manage your stress levels in your life. Coaching helps you create healthy boundaries in your relationships that in turn become healthy, positive and productive. Coaching is inspiring and motivating and the process teaches you how to live your life authentically and on purpose.
So if you feel something is missing in your life and you just can’t seem to pinpoint what it is that’s keeping you from being your best, you just might need someone to help you turn on the lights and shed some insight on what’s stopping you from reaching your full potential and finding true happiness. Now is the perfect time to pick up the phone and find out how the powerful process of Professional Coaching can help you to live the life you’ve always dreamed of!
Remember – Only you can make the call and take action!
“Change is the essence of life. Be willing to surrender what you are
for what you could become.”
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Are You Stuck?
What’s keeping you stuck on the rock?
Are you repeating the same routine over and over and never moving off the rock? Do you feel stuck? Do you have a vision of what you wish your life could be like?
Before a caterpillar becomes a butterfly it must shed the protective coat of the chrysalis so it could fly and reach its full potential. As humans desiring development, we too must go through a process of transformation.
Are you ready to live life completely on your own terms, with vision, purpose and passion? What’s holding you back from taking the first step?
Self-reflection can be an uncomfortable task for some. It’s not easy to confront your weaknesses, to look within and examine what makes you tick. Yet, in the process of this sometimes painful journey, you begin to tap into the strengths and power that lies within you. The good news is the “painful” experience is actually the transformation process at work, moving you forward and the first indication that you have begun your journey of transformation.
Sometimes life presents obstacles and challenges that get in the way of you taking the next step. You see the possibilities out there in the great blue sky, yet, you still find yourself stuck on the “rock”. At one time or another, we all find that we could use some support and more importantly, someone who can help us to identify the possibilities. We need someone who is trained to be a better observer than we are, someone who can offer new interpretations and options. You should reach out to someone who holds your best interest and sees your vision along with you. Perhaps someone like me as your Coach?
The world around you is filled with endless possibilities. Look around you; you’re surrounded by incredibly beautiful and powerful people, places, and things. They are all within your reach. Have the courage to face yourself and look within. Make the commitment to overcome what has held you back and then partner with someone who can hold you accountable for your intentions and you will see, one day at a time, that the positive results will be life changing.
Are you ready to shed your coat and reach your full potential?
Set yourself free and create the life you “wish” you could live.
Finding the light at the end of the tunnel?
Is there light at the end of the tunnel?
In our darkest moments, you can’t even imagine that you will ever have another happy day. It’s that feeling that the walls are crashing in on you and all you can think of is how will I ever get past this, beyond this?
On such a day, my Coach, Fredi Baker said to me, “Elle, in the midst of all this, there is a gift.” I thought the woman lost her mind. I left the session feeling confused, angry, and very discouraged. How is it possible for me to see “a gift” in all this when I feel as though my heart has crashed, my life has lost its zeal…
What I know now, many years later, is that in every moment, there is an opportunity. With every challenge we face, “fair” or not, there is a gift, for every “bad” situation we encounter, good will come of it. I know that when you’re in the hole and it feels and looks very dark, you can’t even phantom such thoughts.
What I offer, as cliché as it may be, “time does heal all wounds.”
A devastating divorcée could never imagine ever having “her life back”, never having that kind of love again, only to meet “the most incredible man I have ever loved”, years later. A loss of a loved one does “not heal”, we just learn to live with the idea that they are removed from our physical presence, yet, they are always in our hearts. Do you heal? In many ways, yes! Without realizing it, months, years later, you look back and realize, I did move on, I did smile again.
For me it took faith, time, patience, hope and perseverance. Overall, I also had to come into a whole lot of self-reflection. Spend every moment making the best of the most devastating situation. Live each day with purpose, gratitude, love and integrity. I know that all sounds difficult when you feel as though you can’t stop the tears, or you feel your whole life is falling apart, yet, it’s these same elements of understanding that will maintain your well being.
At times like this, as a brilliant friend said to me, “your spirit has been broken”. Your spirit is in your smile, your eyes, your warmth, your love for others. When your spirit is broken, everything in your life seems to have lost its value, its excitement, its desire.
Only you can repair and restore your spirit. Only you can hold on, one day at a time, making the best of things as you heal your heart. I know it’s not easy, and most days it certainly isn’t fun. Nevertheless, I am here to tell you that if you look at the gifts, the possibilities, the opportunities and the choices you have been given, you will realize that you are making your way into the next chapter of your life.
Every step you take today sets the stage for your tomorrow.
There is beautiful light at the end of the tunnel waiting for you. Take one step at a time, remain positive and be ready to greet the next chapter of your life.
Wishing you all a beautiful day filled with peace, joy and light!
Eluise
Eluise Gambino, CEC
Certified Leadership & Personal Success Coach
~ Coaching Ordinary People to Extraordinary Success!
Creator of It’s Your Life…What Are You Waiting For?
Co-Facilitator for Powerful You! Women’s Network
coach@ChangeWishingIntoDoing.com
(239) 541-8878
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